Well... whoever said you'd only become a star?

light the way forward

quick capy

It’s crazy how low self-worth fucks with peoples lives

“What will I be if I don’t graduate/don’t get a promotion/don’t get my shit together/don’t make this relationship work?” You would be a perfectly normal human being who is inherently valuable and who possesses many talents and good traits

“What if I fail even when I tried my very best?” The world keeps turning and you will find many other things you will succeed at.

Me when the slow burn is slow burning

It's cause you're always going down that damn spiral

Get off that damn spiral!!!

If you can't cope with the reality of having been wrong, done something wrong, or hurt someone without melting down or having a crisis, you're not safe for anyone to be around, btw. Fucking up is an inevitability of being alive. You literally need need to learn to handle situations in which your actions caused someone else to be hurt, because this is never going to be a thing that just stops happening. Being able to just be wrong, or misinformed, or ignorant, or straight up the one who committed an unforced error to others' detriment while maintaining at least a thin veneer of decorum and reasonability is not optional.

You're not owed forgiveness by others, but you need to learn how to forgive yourself for running afoul of your own value system, otherwise you will render yourself incapable of internalizing when you actually have, thus rendering the value system itself utterly useless at guiding your behaviors, and rendering you effectively devoid of one, besides "I'm never wrong, I'm never the bad guy," I guess. And I'm sure you don't need me to explain how that can only go horrifically, catastrophically wrong.

The 102 of this lesson is that, sometimes, the right thing to do will mean hurting someone's feelings. Sometimes, doing the right thing means saying something that can't be said without upsetting someone, even someone you care about, and/or making them feel bad about themselves. Things like setting boundaries can mean having upsetting, uncomfortable, or otherwise unpleasant conversations, and you need to be able to have those conversations, otherwise you are lacking a skillset necessary to, among other things, meaningfully give consent.

You can't go through life without hurting anyone. It's just not possible. Not only are mistakes inevitable, but sometimes, the correct or necessary actions will unavoidably create conflict. Sometimes it's not gonna get to be a mistake. Sometimes, the option that means you don't have to directly hurt someone is wrong. And so you need to know how to navigate a situation in which you have caused hurt, because not every kindness is nice, and not every necessity is kind.

I'm sorry. But it's kinder to tell a hurtful truth when it is necessary than to tell a pretty lie in its stead.

You need to be able to take Ls with dignity and composure otherwise you will, inexorably, become tar pit. Whether that means being willing to make compromises, to change your mind even if you've invested your energy into something, or just willing to walk into something unpleasant but necessary, you have to be able to be the one who just needs to change or look bad sometimes.

Otherwise you become unable to handle one too many inevitabilities of life and having relationships with other people, and in such a way where, essentially, you will not allow yourself to be wrong. This way of thinking is how abusers get made, and I'm really not kidding. You must be willing to be wrong without also disposing of your responsibility to do better. You need to hold both at the same time and you need to let it hurt until it doesn't anymore because it is not optional.

Sorry. Some things about being alive and healthy just aren't easy or pleasant. But they are still necessary. This is one of those things.

I stg I could come on here and be like “everyone should try to be nice” and somebody I the notes would be like op you don’t understand I have Terminal Meanie Disorder and this hurt my feelings 🥺

“Op is a misogynist because they haven’t considered the societal pressure to be nice that’s disproportionately placed on women.”

“So we should be nice to BAD PEOPLE? We should be nice to NAZIS and let them do whatever they want?”

“Haha what a funny exaggerated post”

I could tag the people who put identical responses to these on my posts but I’d be drawn and quartered.

It’s not bad reading comprehension anymore it’s bad faith.

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Splatoon oc design for @opal-owl-flight !!

you're choking on your own words!

The dust bunny is screaming

Aggressive mimicry fakemons - a literal ghost hunter that targets Duskull (a Dupeskull?) and a Shaymin lookalike who eats bugs that come to pollinate its fake flowers

When I see a video of a cat minding its own business with nothing else going on I unmute immediately cause I know that mf is about to make a funny noise

pushed over by ghosts! sad

Third base is getting stabbed in the stomach and slumping forward with your chin on their shoulder and blood dripping from your mouth