Musings and Safeties: Submission is Voluntary
And as a hypnotic subject or a general submissive, if you find yourself in a scene where the 'Dom' or 'Tist' doesn't get that, kindly have the presence of spirit to tell them to fuck off.
You always have to remember that it's YOUR surrender... YOUR submission...
Even if you are into non-con play, covert hypnosis, forced submission play or unaware brainwashing, always know that YOU are the one that needs to agree to it. Anyone that tries to convince you otherwise has no business enjoying your submission.
I say all this because someone asked me to better explain why I stated, in my previous post, that "the subject controls the hypnosis they allow the hypnotist to perform".
Broken down in simple terms, it simply means that as a subject, you should ALWAYS have the last say as to what you are made to experience. You should ALWAYS have a way to wake up or stop a scene. On the surface, you might be completely powerless under your hypnotist's dominance, but that doesn't mean that on the deeper, true level of your interaction, you aren't in control.
Or at least, if you are in a healthy scene, you should be and if you are not, that's a MAJOR red flag.
It can be a little confusing and counter intuitive, I know...
You need to think about it as if you were in a BDSM type relationship. In Dominance/submission play, the one that ultimately holds the reins is the sub. Meaning that they are the ones giving themselves to the Dom. They have all the power when it comes to limits and what they allow the Dom to do with them. They CHOOSE to partake in a power-exchange that places them beneath the other.
In that same sense, a hypnosis subject isn't a 'victim' of the trance even if some subjects love to experience covert inductions or 'forced' inductions. Just like in BDSM, the scene you are doing might appear, on the surface to be wholly non-consensual. But that's JUST the surface.
It's the fantasy you both chose to enjoy together and at the end of the day in your heart of hearts, it was still your choice to do it.
The subject ALLOWS the hypnotist to take control.
The subject ALLOWS the hypnotist to do a certain list of things to them.
In hypno-kink a safe practice to use when you begin to explore is to make sure you always have a way to stop a scene or session. Like, for example, using a safe word.
Safe words can be used by the subject to bring themselves out of trance. It doesn't matter what they are. The important thing is to spend some time with your hypnotist so they can implant that idea in your mind in a way that remains always accessible to you even if you are deeply entranced.
If your hypno-play is less intense or doesn't flirt as much with the non-consent part of the kink, then another way you can stay in control is to use setup that enables you to communicate with your hypnotist without waking up.
A typical example of this would be to use a color code: Green means all is well, yellow means to slow down or change directions and red means stop.
THAT is what I meant when I said that a subject controls the hypnosis.
If you are with a hypnotist that can't be bothered to accept this, then it is another MAJOR RED flag.
We are all here to enjoy the power play hypno-kink offers (as well as Dominance/submissive or BDSM play), but it's very important to remember that THAT power play is only possible through mutual consent.
And were there isn't consent, there is abuse and in some cases, a felony.
So again, if you find yourself experiencing your kink with someone that can't understand that the 'Dom' or 'Tist' isn't the one that is truly in control, then kindly tell them to FUCK off.
TM