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a lot of meta-fandom complaints that i hear often feel like Unintentional Rips on queer people.

"why does every character have to have a Queer Headcanon attached" i dunno, because most of us making them are queer

"why does everything have to be Found Family" i dunno, because most of us are queer without families

"why is everything about shipping" i dunno, because most of us are only having true relationships for the first time in like, our mid twenties

"why are you so obsessed with Redemption and Evil" i dunno, because most of us queers are painted as such by our peers, relatives, and media from the start. in the eyes of the Cishets, at best we have an agenda, at worst we're pedophiles made of hellfire

"why are so many queer adults into this Thing For Kids" i dunno, because most of us queers were so alienated from ourselves during our childhoods (esp us transes) that we're just now rediscovering the wonder in this world

lotta queer folks in the US are orphans in almost every way possible, and have next to nothing to call their own: spiritually, culturally, materially. we're moored to a profound trauma from birth sometimes. being a little passionate and annoying about Fandom is probably better than like, suicide. your friend's trans Three Houses Warrior Cats AU is such a trivial price to pay for their continued existence

let's hear it for the nonbinary folks who:

• don't present androgynously
• use "binary" pronouns in any capacity
• identify partially with a binary gender
• have a "gendered" name
• don't experience body dysmorphia
• don't experience gender dysphoria
• DO experience gender dysphoria/body dysmorphia but aren't sure what gender or body would suit them
• just experience body/gender apathy instead
• can't be open about their gender identity yet

you're all absolutely valid.

don't ever feel like you're "not nonbinary enough" because you absolutely are! 💖

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In ~these times~ it is important for queer people to be reminded of what "coming out" originally meant. "Coming out" did not mean telling all of your co-workers something super stigmatized and vulnerable about you, wearing your queer status on your sleeve in public, informing the police or government institutions about your sexuality, or even telling your parents. "Coming out" meant venturing out into the queer community; being among other queers as a queer yourself.

Coming out isn't about telling the entire world when doing so is not safe for you, it's not about arming your enemies with information they could use against you. No, coming out is about making a fulfilling queer life possible for yourself through participation in the queer community. It is about escaping the restrictions and dangers of the cisgender heterosexual world by rooting oneself more deeply into the queer one.

And you can always do that. No matter how oppressed we are. No matter how much the culture shifts and policies are enacted to terrorize us. We are always able to be ourselves when we are amongst each other. And living our queerness has always been a collective social project, not just a matter of personal exposure.

queer is a gender, sexuality, romantic orientation, political alignment, and mission statement, babey

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Happy ASAW 2024, here's something about community !

like people are just going to keep saying “theyre only queer because they want to be/because it gets them off/because they think it’s fun/because they saw a queer person and thought it sounded like a good idea/etc. theyre gonna keep saying it

and we are going to have to stop desperately scrambling to say noooo, they have to be like that, they have no choice, they wouldn’t be like this if they didnt have to. we HAVE to stop falling all over ourselves assuring straight people and transphobes that we hate being us as much as they hate us being us, that we are suffering and that’s why we deserve this decadence and deviancy. we HAVE to start saying “yeah ok and?”

being queer is a delight. deviant sex makes people really happy. being genderfucky is joyful. queerness CAN actually be an option you can choose, and that doesn’t make it worth less than if you only picked it with a gun to your head, because it is a good option and there are good reasons to pick it.

"The storyline of someone slowly realizing they're queer as they fall in love with a formerly-platonic friend is an important one that resonates with a lot of people" and "It makes me, an aroace person, uncomfortable when fans of a work insist that a self-professed straight character MUST be falling in love with their platonic same-sex friend because of COURSE a friendship could never be as fulfilling or as important as a romance so why would they be showing us all these intimate scenes if we weren't meant to assume they were romantic?" are two concepts that unfortunately must coexist

“We chose the term “asexual” to describe ourselves because both “celibate” and “anti-sexual” have connotations we wished to avoid: the first implies that one has sacrificed sexuality for some higher good, the second that sexuality is degrading or somehow inherently bad. “Asexual”, as we use it, does not mean “without sex” but “relating sexually to no one”. This does not, of course, exclude masturbation but implies that if one has sexual feelings they do not require another person for their expression. Asexuality is, simply, self-contained sexuality.”

— The Asexual Manifesto, Lisa Orlando and Barbara Getz, 1972