sip some tea and stay a while

casual reminder that you can still spoil your femme without feeding into consumerism <3

write them notes n love letters, cook them their favorite meal, bake them a treat, steal them something from a shitty corporation, spoil them with words of affirmation and gratitude, bring back a pretty rock shell leaf etc. from an outdoor trip you had, proudly show off photos of yourself or photos you took, lend them your favorite book with a note abt why it's your favorite, put the towel in the dryer before they're out of the shower n wrap them in it, pick out outfits from their wardrobe you think they'd be cute in so they can show off for you, give them your undivided attention & ask encouraging questions, etc etc etc

Exactly how I feel!

u survive literally every single event in your life & still every time a new event happens you feel like this is the event that will kill you and that you will never move on from but actually you will continue to survive like you always have bc u have a 100% win rate of surviving events. btw

Like a half hour after taking pain relief meds: oh actually it doesnt hurt anymore i probably didnt even need to take those

brooooo…….. it’s like…… a metaphor………………. ……

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Hero

Direct Action

I’m so happy when I’m on T. I feel so good physically when I’m on T. but when you tell that to people who are “just worried about your health and well-being”, somehow the conversation slips sideways into some other angle they think they can attack from. “but we don’t know what these hormones will do to you”, yes we do, it’s been exhaustively studied. “but people won’t accept you,” yes they will, it’s only you doesn’t accept me. “but x, but y, but z, but, but, but….”

it’s so boring and transparent. and I’m done with entertaining it.

the problem with these conversations is that they don’t care about learning. they want you to detransition, that’s it. nothing else is relevant to them.

I met an older nb queer (I estimate early 50s) at the club last night. It was a religious experience. We talked about mushrooms, AIDs, and Terry Gilliams movies.

They told me about identifying as a sissy when they were a kid because that was the only term they had for an effeminate man. We talked about gender and the way the world has changed then they passed me a very strong joint.

As the night wore on they leaned over and told me how good it was to meet a butch for the first time in a long time. They told me that when they were 16 and sneaking out of the house to go to gay bars the butches were the ones who took them in.

I had to hold back tears in the club.

There are futures for all of us. And if your future involves tophats with feathers, silly songs, and trippy jackets, then there's a future for you too.

As a 40yo nb punk, I have this experience at least monthly. I am blessed to live in an area full of queer folk, and through actions and protests and community events I have met so many young queers. They want to know everything about what it was like in the 90s and the looks on their faces when I tell them I started as a “cross dressing gay man”, graduated to trans woman, then finally JUST THIS YEAR figured out the language of nonbinary and gender-fluid, which is how I identify today.

They approach us, their queer elders, thinking this is going to be a one-way interaction. But the reality is every time they come up to me with questions about this or that, they inevitably throughout the course of the conversation drop some new knowledge on me about gender and sexuality I have never even considered - and sometimes it clicks that it was the piece I’ve been missing to make sense of my own identity.

We as elders have just as much to learn from queer youth as the youth has to learn from us. In fact, we have ancient knowledge, whereas the trailblazing youth are ACTIVELY CREATING new paradigms and ways to think about gender, sexuality, and humanity as an experience.

I am in awe, constantly.

“love thy neighbor” collage [analog] 2025 - credit to me

how it feels reading old texts about trans ppl and not giving a fuck that the language is outdated

Japanese actress and male impersonator, Kawaji Ryuko. Ryuko was the star of Shochiku Kagekidan Women's Theater (Shochiku Revue) in the 1940s and 50s

🎶You deserve to get paid! Let them know that!🎵

all your stuffed animals love you. they're not sad if they're in a box, or on the floor, or not held/played with as much. they understand. they know that you might need another stuffie more, or that you don't have enough space. they're just happy to be with you, and if you ever give them away, they'll be happy there too. stuffies are for comfort. they understand. they love you too. it's okay.

Folks, backup your Tumblrs, for real this time

To be clear, I don't have any news about any impending doom. But I've heard a bit more about what's going on with staff after the layoff of last week, and there are even less people than I thought still working here.

I don't think even the current staff know what's going to happen, but honestly, I don't see how the high ups could even pretend to intend to keep this place open while virtually unstaffed.

And of course, if the most despicable thing happens, you can find me at @javi@goblin.band from any fediverse platform 🤷

for reference, OP is a former employee of Tumblr who tries to keep up to date with tumblr’s inner workings. please back your blogs up.

In your blog settings you have the ability to initiate a blog export, and this will generate a backup for your blog.

Fair warning though, if you've been on the platform for a long time this archive is likely to be quite hefty in file size. This blog I have had for 5 years with 22k posts, and the export from tumblr came to be 48GB. My previous blog I made in 2011 and has 95k posts, so needless to say I did not use tumblr's built in export to back that one up.

If you want more control over exactly what you back up from your blog, I recommend that you use tumblr-utils instead. It allows you to backup specific tags, post types, and to ignore posts that you did not create (reblogs where you've added a comment count as a post you created, to be clear).

To use it:

now in the window that opens it should show the current path, and you can type "py -2 .\tumblr_backup.py [your options] [your blog name]" and hit enter. Example:

Backing up just my original posts from this blog with this command came to 632MB rather than 48GB, and also gave me the option to save my posts in JSON format which will be useful for converting my posts to a new format for self hosting.

On that note I'm currently looking into figuring out a simple (and ideally free) way of self hosting a static site blog that utilises activitypub, and also converting my old posts to re-host on said blog.

This post series by maho.dev on implementing activitypub with any static site is my primary source of guidance atm if you also want to try figure that out yourself, as well as having an explanation for why you'd even want to do this if you don't already know

but if tumblr goes down before I get things sorted and write up a post about it then i'll be reporting back on it via my bsky, mastodon, and toyhouse accounts

if you dont have an account on any of these I'll also be sharing an update via my personal site's RSS feed, link of which includes an explanation of what RSS is and some feed readers you can use, I highly recommend checking it out as getting a feed reader is going to be the best way you can stay connected with people if they scatter across the internet!

tldr: download tumblr-utils to backup your blog more efficiently, introduce yourself to RSS and get a feed reader to stay connected with people, consider saving mine so you can find out how to self host your blog later if tumblr goes down

i have already personally backed up all of my tumblr posts but this is a good reminder for everyone else

goodnight

Li-Young Lee "To Hold"

the person that you could’ve been or the life you could’ve lived isn’t real. it’s an illusion and a fantasy that only exists in your head. all you have is here and now

every day is all there is

To The Painters of Pompeii - Jordan Bolton

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