Kink isn’t shameful because of the weird sex stuff. That part’s rad. It’s shameful because it is technically improv.
Twenty years ago, February 15th, 2004, I got married for the first time.
It was twenty years earlier than I ever expected to.
To celebrate/comemorate the date, I'm sitting down to write out everything I remember as I remember it. No checking all the pictures I took or all the times I've written about this before. I'm not going to turn to my husband (of twenty years, how the f'ing hell) to remember a detail for me.
This is not a 100% accurate recounting of that first wild weekend in San Francisco. But it -is- a 100% accurate recounting of how I remember it today, twenty years after the fact.
Join me below, if you would.
you want to read this
No matter how progressive or well-read you are, there are always going to be moments in your life where somebody pushes back against something that's so culturally ingrained you never even considered it before. And you'll say "Huh, it never occurred to me to challenge this but you're right" and that doesn't mean you were "morally toxic" before, it means you're a non-omniscient human capable of growth.
Good evening friends,
Still needing food. I don't have anything here to eat for myself or the kids, I don't have anything to pack for school lunches even for my oldest and I don't wanna keep him home because of that. I just have nothing. Besides the big dilemma we are in...we really need some food to get by...maybe just a few days but something that'll maybe last the week. Or anything. I'm grateful for anything. I just need help. Really need some help.
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