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@silly-fox-and-its-stuffies

pronouns: https://pronouny.xyz/u/gay-w3ird0 see pinned for info not sure when I made this account but my first post was December 13 2023

small intro (writing this realizing I dont know crap abt myself /hj)

disabled with a neurological condition (FND), age regressor, Universic + pagan? maybe?, genderqueer, pan, aromantic, way too many microlabels, oh yeah i'm also alterhuman and a furry

warnings: I use caps a lot, lmk if you dont like if I say ily or use hearts, I'm a minor but not saying age, I'm autistic and prob have a personality disorder, I'm also the host of a polyfragmented DID system (do NOT involve us in discourse, also dont ask our system origins, that's none of your business)

i also talk about religion sometimes, I usually forget to tag so here's your warning if you're uncomfy with that

DNI: T.R.A.S.H. (transphobic, racist, ableist, sexist, homophobic), fatphobic ppl, over 30 or so idk 25+ is on thin ice usually, FARTs (another acronym for terfs/swerfs), age play/ddlg, pro narc abuse, radqueers (doesn't include desiredae, those are welcome here but radqueers arent)

before you ask about if I'm anti ship or pro ship: https://pin.it/62RMtuyiX

interests/hyperfixations: kandi, minecraft, BLUEY, religion, whale sharks, NEUROLOGY, queer identities, stuffies, sudoku, greys anatomy, arc of a scythe

I made a blog for aac emotes! @bumblebee-emotes

I made a community for people with FND! :D https://www.tumblr.com/join/RyaP0NeQ

current partners:

  • @sleepinginmygrave (platonic)
  • @arson-keeps-the-fire-going (romantic)
  • Ripple (romantic)
  • Faven (platonic)
  • Lily (romantic)

Please do not DM me without warning. Seriously. It gives me really bad anxiety and I'm probably going to end up upset instead of wanting to talk to you bc you ignored this. This is because of trust issues. If you ignore this don't be mad when I'm upset at you because you made me extremely anxious not knowing who messaged me.

someone help me structure this better please there's too many big piles of info

Idk why maybe to comfort myself; here are things I use to survive flying✨

  1. The correct movies! Cozy animation ✅ jaws❌ anything that stimulates fear or anxiety is a no. Sometimes for me every action is a no. Bcs it stimulates which is too close to panic. Also not too sad - too close to emotional. Best plane movies in my opinion so far; SpongeBob, ALL THE TROLLS MOVIES (I refuse to be judged for liking them), Sherlock gnomes (that whole franchise to be fair but…mortuary is fucking terrifying), Winnie the Pooh, Disney musicals.
  2. Attire; hoodie!!!! Put the headphones on over the hoodie (it’s cozier). Super cozy pants! And thick socks you can put on in the plane. If it’s a long haul take the pillow to your lower back, the blanket around your legs, belt on and legs crossed(if you can). I like having my hair in braids so it doesn’t bother me or my headphones. A plush is recommended and wearing your favourites of things is also recommended. Aim for a comfortable temperature - avoid being too warm or cold.
  3. EAT BEFORE YOU FLY. Be full. The fuller you are the less you feel that horrible stomach drop as the plane does a jig (within reason of course). A warm meal is magic on the nerves!
  4. Download plane friendly music. (Motivating, encouraging, empowering, calming etc). It’s helpful to avoid triggering songs even if you love them🌸
  5. Snacks is a hard one - I find myself so scared on planes I cannot eat. But sour candies and some treats may help you.
  6. Water! Always have it. Sometimes cold helps me sometimes warm - up to needs. Helps hold back tears✨
  7. If you can - fly during the day so you can see what is happening and aren’t just in a shaking box of darkness (for some reason my family refuses this🥲)
  8. Middle of the plane. On the wings. It’s the best place to be - especially on the isle in my opinion (staff and pee access).
  9. TELL THEM YOU ARE TERRIFIED. Tell the staff. They will look out for you. Even inform the pilot in some occasions to be more careful. But - I wouldn’t recommend asking them “how bumpy the flight” bcs they usually choose not to answer. And if you get the scariest answer “try to fall asleep before we are over water” then you’ll be shitting bricks long before anything starts🐟
  10. Flight turbulence checkers are great if you are the kind of person who can handle it if you know what’s coming. If you are like me and see it’s bumpy and just start breaking down then…maybe don’t do that🌞
  11. Avoid other stresses that could be already heightening your anxieties ( I.e be showered but don’t have wet hair, pack a few days in advance, have boarding passes and check in sorted in advance, know where you can eat and what at the air port, plan with plenty of time to arrive.) the goal is to start the flight in the best and most positive position.
  12. If you can; company. Someone to clutch the hand of as you spiral out. Someone who won’t cry when they see you cry. So far I’ve been lucky enough to have only travelled alone once and at that time I wasn’t scared of flying…so. Yeah.
  13. On to the heavy hitters; I take drowsies. I do. I take anti-nausea medication. And it genuinely sedates me. You still freak out but it’s farther away. Don’t do this when travelling alone. Can’t lie - it’s shit for my heart and my hydration level. And it can be scary the first few times bcs you’ll be like “I’m gonna do this” and just can’t✨ DONT DO THIS WITHOUT MEDICAL GUIDANCE - ask your pharmacist. Sominex also half works. Technically I have been prescribed a panic medication (but in true cowardice fashion) I’ve avoided it…for the more damaging alternative. Yeh.

Ok that’s all byeeeeee💓💓

BREAKING NEWS: Another white therian claiming their nonhumanity gives them access to Native culture and spirituality. No one is surprised. More at 10.

take control

shape yourself

glyphs: transform (top), transition (bottom), express (left), and protect (right)

(click for quality, eyestrain versions and text image id under cut, though the id is also located in the first picture’s alt text)

Radqueers, get the fuck out of the transspecies tag. Transspecies will never be transID. Take your racist, ableist, transphobic cosplay somewhere else.

wtf is with the common vs rare theiotype thing

people will say “not ANOTHER cat ‘therian’ ugh way overdone🙄”

and then be like “you can’t be a unicorn!! You’re just looking for attention! Besides unicorn aren’t real dummy😡”

???are we not allowed to have theriotypes at all 😅😅 ?

my stickers!!

sorry it's not the best picture, so i can just explain which each is. the upside down ones are a heart shaped trans flag, a red fox, pixelated mushrooms, a cute little crow, and a rainbow heart that says love is love. for the top part going mostly top to bottom left to right there's a heart shaped genderqueer flag, the circle one that says the olympics bc my family likes going there, a minecraft fox, mushrooms and it says the name of the town i got it in, the sticker in the middle says "thanks it's the autism", i have another mushroom sticker with a snail on it, a sticker that says gender is a social construct, one with a picture of a stomach and it says "tummy ache survivor", and the frog one says "i can't live laugh love in these conditions" there's also a couple smaller bluey ones sprinkled in like muffin with her cone, the annoying little owl (chatterbox or smtg), the family all next to each other, and a little mouse toy. if you have questions of where i got them or anything please please ask me i love answering questions!! the case is from amazon (ik, ik) but it's kinda bad bc it doesn't fit entirely right

disabled children not allowed be children.

especially. intellectually and/or developmentally disabled (I/DD) children, & children w behavioral or “behavioral” struggles (aka many I/DD children) not allowed be children.

which may be weird thing say at first because I/DD famous for be infantilized, be treat as forever children. so would think children be only thing they “allow” be, n say they not allow be children contradicting—

but not actually.

as general whole, nondisabled children “allowed” tantrums. allow emotional immature. allowed childish quirks.

what be normal child tantrum fuss in (white) nondisabled children, even with child health/care professionals who whole entire job be understand that nondisabled typically developing child have underdeveloped brain n not yet have self regulate skill n that developmentally appropriate that normal, it may be talk as annoying & inconvenient, but for I/DD children every. single. time. where they “tantrum” “fuss” even in developmentally appropriate ways, chance be write as sign of their disability, sign of behavior problem, sign of emotional problem. be evidence of disorder. of abnormal. of something wrong. which be “okay” reason dehumanize, abuse, be talk about like animal, like not in room, like difficult problem to be solved.

nondisabled adults fondly look back at childhood comfort objects that maybe still have now, stuffed toys blankets or maybe less usual things that mean something to them. but when disabled children have them it be more likely *automatic* see as problem, as something need be weaned off, need be taken away, as unhealthy overattachment, be write into behavioral plan, only allow x minute per day, see as “impractical” & “useless”.

as general whole, nondisabled children allow say no, allow act out “no,” allow prefer, allow not want do something so protest by not doing, by not listening, by pretend not hear you. it may be see as funny or annoying but meanwhile for disabled children it largely see as oppositional as noncompliance as inattentive as something need be trained out of by all means possible.

nondisabled children do things because they kids. disabled children do things because there something wrong with them.

nondisabled children rights n autonomy not fully respected by any means but disabled children get even less of it.

disabled children often not allowed many leeway’s as nondisabled children, what be developmentally appropriate for same age nondisabled children often be over label as disorder as problem as something abnormal need be get rid off in disabled children.

n especially when come to behaviorally, white nondisabled children get be the most “child,” n Black n other disabled children of color get “child” stolen from them in multiple ways.

happy autism acceptance month. this month, regardless if you're abled or disabled, allistic or autistic, try to consider if you really do accept people with autism. all aspects of autism. people who:

  • without volume control
  • talk to themselves or make sounds (seemingly) at random
  • have huge screaming meltdowns
  • stim any way, including smearing body fluids
  • only talk about one subject and will never "move on"
  • stare inappropriately
  • struggle with personal hygiene
  • are unemployed
  • who left education early ("dropped out")
  • has a carer and will always need one
  • don't use mouth words to communicate
  • have comorbid intellectual disability and don't want to separate that from their autism

autism acceptance month can't truly be about acceptance if we don't broaden our understanding of autism and confront our internal biases. these things listen above are normal parts of autism. sometimes very common. there's stigma around them, but that's stigma we can actively fight.

Trying to decide if I blast this email all over my local Facebook page. I have asked them about captioning devices in person, over the phone, and through Facebook previously. Not to mention the obvious "I have a disability and this works for me so it should work for you."

you know when i say we have to accept autistic people who have symptoms of autism that cause things like body fluid smearing, inconsistent or no personal hygiene, lack of volume control, etc. I'm not talking about some fringe cases of autistic people with "extreme" symptoms. these things are common. they're common amongst medium and high support needs autistics, but also amongst low support needs autistics. some of your peers at the local autistic peer support society are struggling with incontinence. it's just that they can control their liquid intake and use pads to manage symptoms. some of them are smearing fecal matter but they just clean up after themselves. the divide between low support needs and others isn't that low support needs autistics are actually more palatable, have fewer undesirable symptoms, or are in any way better than the rest of the autistic population. even if some people like to act that way. it just refers to the level of support they need. like being able to manage your own incontinence for example doesn't make you have it any less. we've gotta accept that various symptoms are part of autism. they're actually quite common. there remains a lot of social stigma around these symptoms, but that doesn't make them rare or not worth talking about. things like skin picking or hitting your head are behaviours that naturally arise from having autism, and we've got to accept that

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