cop donut stereotype is bad because being fat and eating many donuts : hot. but police officers: not hot. the humble donut, one of the most sexual foods, the reliable donut. we should take this practice and give it to a different more sexy profession, such as electrician, or professor of linguistics
unfortunately this comment a TERF made on one of my posts is genuinely hysterical
One weird experience of transitioning is failing at ur assigned gender role the whole time and everyone constantly deriding you for it but then u come out and it's like we lost a beautiful gender conforming warrior today. Must grieve for my wonderful child who pissed me off by being ugly and weird since day 1
*incredibly loud over speakers all over the room* do you like chubby white guys
ignore my subpar editing skills. i felt like this was a necessary edition. they are transmasc transfem solidarity
lately ive been bedridden with a terrible case of i dont wanna
honestly idk where the idea that trans men are largely preceived as "lost confused little girls" or otherwise sympathized with at all because like, ive never experienced that. ive never received any comment or reply or ask anywhere in my life telling me any of that. ive received violent death/rape for being trans, ive been called a "female groomer" many times despite being sexually assaulted/groomed as a child and as an adult by cis person. ive been body shamed and fat shamed for being very masculine + trans. ive been told im ruining my life and that no one will ever want to date/fuck me again because ive gotten gender affirming surgeries. like a lot of the transphobia i personally experience is people hyperfixating on the fact that i made myself unfuckable to them and that means that i am worthless. like maybe if ur skinny + fem u might be "worth saving" but not my fat ass, and im pretty positive that black trans men arent gonna receive any of that "sympathy" either, but as a white trans man im not gonna speak for black trans men. and honestly i think pushing this idea that this is the most common form of transphobia for trans men to experience and not corrective rape/domestic violence (at least offline) is setting a bit of a dangerous precedent for a very vunerable group of people
The problem is that transphobes, simultaneously to treating us the way you’ve laid out, are also trying to use the whole “craze seducing our young autistic daughters” angle publicly to do things like pass legislation.
And people hear that, and are also simultaneously unwilling to listen to us about how we end up treated by transphobes to our faces, and reject us as unreliable narrators because taking transphobes at face value fits their binary-but-trans-inclusive models of oppression better than our experiences do.
We need shittable cities (actively maintained public restrooms).
A city without well-maintained restrooms is a city where many of the chronically ill cannot leave their homes, and where the homeless are criminalized for bodily functions. If I had a nickel for every day I haven’t gone somewhere with friends because I didn’t know the bathroom situation, I’d have enough to put in a sock and beat a couple of billionaires to death.
I literally can't visit Seattle anymore for this reason. I am glad I didn't move there.
American Restroom Association does a lot of good advocacy for things like this, and Project for Sanitation Justice maps out public toilets in the San Diego area. This article has a few more suggestions for places to start.
And for the people who seem convinced that leaving bathrooms open 24/7 is dangerous, you know what else is dangerous? Cholera.
Other people who need public restrooms:
Being transmasc is so funny sometimes you gotta go out of the house and be like alright, wallet, keys, phone- Shit, my penis. Where'd I put my penis
Direct lineage enrollment, where you need an enrolled parent to enroll in your tribe, is so complicated because it makes so much sense on paper but is absolutely fucked in practice, especially in tribes with other enrollment restrictions like age. One missed generation, one person ledt unenrolled for safety, one forgetful parent who didn't know or remember to enroll their children, one child stolen from their family and never enrolled, and the entire family is permanently cut off from their tribe and community.
Sure, you don't have to be enrolled to be Native but that's much easier to say than to live with, between fakeclaiming online and so many cultural and community things only being available to enrolled members.
I think a lot of non-Native people see discussions of enrollment restrictions in tribes as coming from pretendians who are mad that their chosen tribe doesn't want them when those discussions are actually coming from Native people who are left on the fringes of their tribe because they don't have a card. Open enrollment is also often seen as just a way for people to get around enrollment requirements, especially blood quantum, but those periods are decided on by tribes who are fully aware of how their current restrictions are hurting families and the community.
Tribal enrollment in general is so fucked because no one else is expected to be legally registered as their ethnicity to be respected BUT ALSO Native tribes are sovereign nations so enrollment is closer to citizenship than personal identity BUT ALSO enrollment was used to destroy tribes by the federal government because less people in a tribe means more tribal land that's up for grabs BUT ALSO enrollment requirements now are set by individual tribes and not the federal government BUT ALSO a lot of those requirements are based around financial or bigoted reasons like patrilineal enrollment designed to keep women from marrying outside of the tribe BUT ALSO people laying claim to Native identity to act as authorities on our communities and cultures and to benefit in a multitude of ways (usually by taking social, political, and academic positions) is a serious issue that negatively impacts Native people BUT ALSO enrollment restrictions do very real and tangible harm to our communities too and many requirements (like direct lineage) actively punish people for forced assimilation BUT ALSO—
Shit is hard.
