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25 ways to be a little more punk in 2025

  1. Cut fast fashion - buy used, learn to mend and/or make your own clothes, buy fewer clothes less often so you can save up for ethically made quality
  2. Cancel subscriptions - relearn how to pirate media, spend $10/month buying a digital album from a small artist instead of on Spotify, stream on free services since the paid ones make you watch ads anyway
  3. Green your community - there's lots of ways to do this, like seedbombing or joining a community garden or organizing neighborhood trash pickups
  4. Be kind - stop to give directions, check on stopped cars, smile at kids, let people cut you in line, offer to get stuff off the high shelf, hold the door, ask people if they're okay
  5. Intervene - learn bystander intervention techniques and be prepared to use them, even if it feels awkward
  6. Get closer to your food - grow it yourself, can and preserve it, buy from a farmstand, learn where it's from, go fishing, make it from scratch, learn a new ingredient
  7. Use opensource software - try LibreOffice, try Reaper, learn Linux, use a free Photoshop clone. The next time an app tries to force you to pay, look to see if there's an opensource alternative
  8. Make less trash - start a compost, be mindful of packaging, find another use for that plastic, make it a challenge for yourself!
  9. Get involved in local politics - show up at meetings for city council, the zoning commission, the park district, school boards; fight the NIMBYs that always show up and force them to focus on the things impacting the most vulnerable folks in your community
  10. DIY > fashion - shake off the obsession with pristine presentation that you've been taught! Cut your own hair, use homemade cosmetics, exchange mani/pedis with friends, make your own jewelry, duct tape those broken headphones!
  11. Ditch Google - Chromium browsers (which is almost all of them) are now bloated spyware, and Google search sucks now, so why not finally make the jump to Firefox and another search like DuckDuckGo? Or put the Wikipedia app on your phone and look things up there?
  12. Forage - learn about local edible plants and how to safely and sustainably harvest them or go find fruit trees and such accessible to the public.
  13. Volunteer - every week tutoring at the library or once a month at the humane society or twice a year serving food at the soup kitchen, you can find something that matches your availability
  14. Help your neighbors - which means you have to meet them first and find out how you can help (including your unhoused neighbors), like elderly or disabled folks that might need help with yardwork or who that escape artist dog belongs to or whether the police have been hassling people sleeping rough
  15. Fix stuff - the next time something breaks (a small appliance, an electronic, a piece of furniture, etc.), see if you can figure out what's wrong with it, if there are tutorials on fixing it, or if you can order a replacement part from the manufacturer instead of trashing the whole thing
  16. Mix up your transit - find out what's walkable, try biking instead of driving, try public transit and complain to the city if it sucks, take a train instead of a plane, start a carpool at work
  17. Engage in the arts - go see a local play, check out an art gallery or a small museum, buy art from the farmer's market
  18. Go to the library - to check out a book or a movie or a CD, to use the computers or the printer, to find out if they have other weird rentals like a seed library or luggage, to use meeting space, to file your taxes, to take a class, to ask question
  19. Listen local - see what's happening at local music venues or other events where local musicians will be performing, stop for buskers, find a favorite artist, and support them
  20. Buy local - it's less convenient than online shopping or going to a big box store that sells everything, but try buying what you can from small local shops in your area
  21. Become unmarketable - there are a lot of ways you can disrupt your online marketing surveillance, including buying less, using decoy emails, deleting or removing permissions from apps that spy on you, checking your privacy settings, not clicking advertising links, and...
  22. Use cash - go to the bank and take out cash instead of using your credit card or e-payment for everything! It's better on small businesses and it's untraceable
  23. Give what you can - as capitalism churns on, normal shmucks have less and less, so think about what you can give (time, money, skills, space, stuff) and how it will make the most impact
  24. Talk about wages - with your coworkers, with your friends, while unionizing! Stop thinking about wages as a measure of your worth and talk about whether or not the bosses are paying fairly for the labor they receive
  25. Think about wealthflow - there are a thousand little mechanisms that corporations and billionaires use to capture wealth from the lower class: fees for transactions, interest, vendor platforms, subscriptions, and more. Start thinking about where your money goes, how and where it's getting captured and removed from our class, and where you have the ability to cut off the flow and pass cash directly to your fellow working class people
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Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejevcting, or Self-Involved Parents

by Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD

⭐️⭐️

Lots of dubious pop psychology good person/bad person binaries in this book. There are a few kernels of decent actionable advice in here, but I'm not sure it's worth having to wade through the author's repeated, questionable attempts to categorize people to find them.

Read if you:

-like dissecting & critically analyzing pop psychology texts

-have a strong bullshit detector

CW: emotional abuse & neglect, ableism, sanism

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Some of you fuckers think about gender identity the way we taxonomize animal species instead of as a thing people do to express themselves.

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I actually think Mark & Helly not having a ton of romantic chemistry is kind of the point. In school I knew a bunch of people who ended up dating classmates they didn't have much in common with, and having very intense and brief relationships, just because they wanted to have a relationship with SOMEONE and their options were limited.

Mark and Helly's romance IS forced. Literally! We don't need a doylist explanation for it. The innies have all the worldly experience of babies and until they started visiting other departments they knew like 7 people total. They are doing the best with what they have. Dylan was clearly into Ms Casey in season 1 (even if only in a childish, "puppy love" kind of way, but again that's THE POINT), and Irving fell for one of the first people he met outside of MDR. It was sheer luck that he and Burt had more chemistry.

Maybe I'm wrong and it's not written with that intention, but I think it could be an interesting angle. We see outie mark discounting innie Mark's relationship with Helly, partly because he doesn't quite see them as real people but also because it's been so brief and, I would assume, because he thinks the relationship he formed with Gemma as an adult is more meaningful.

And from there we can get some new questions. Does a relationship matter less if you had fewer options? Does it matter less if you don't have a lot in common, but what you do have in common is all you have? Does it matter less if it's your first relationship? Does it matter less if it won't last? Does it matter less if it happened because you both felt isolated? Does it matter less if, in other better circumstances, it wouldn't have formed? Does it matter less if its forced? From whose perspective?

Severance is all about the innies being discounted not only for being "artificial" personalities that happen to share bodies with "real" people but also because their worldly experience is so limited and their lives are so dictated by Lumon.

So sure, maybe Mark and Helly aren't a great match, and maybe it is a little childish, but so what? Haven't you ever done something that you felt was important in the moment, even if in hindsight it wasn't a great idea? Wouldn't you be a little resentful if someone came along and laughed at you for the things you cared about, just because you were still learning how to care?

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if you want to actually start to end homelessness, you need to give homeless people unconditional homes, including when we use them to do drugs or sit around drinking. either housing is unconditional or it isn’t

someone sitting at home alone, an active alcoholic, squandering your charity, drinking all day is better situation than a street homeless alcoholic. someone using drugs in your charity house is better than them doing the same w no shelter

most of you would not like most street homeless people, I definitely don’t and didn’t when I was street homeless. for every one person who uses unconditional shelter to turn themselves around, someone else will do jack shit and very slowly, if ever, work through the issues that made them homeless, will maybe never be able to live independently. still better than street homelessness, still worth doing. ultimately either you believe that shelter should be universal or you don’t

homeless people actually can’t be rehabilitated if you want to end homelessness. we either affirm the right to shelter for the worst drunken, lying, filthy, cheating, self destructive homeless people that exist, genuinely irredeemable wankers, or we concede that shelter is not a right

This post is the distilled essence of everything I believe in.

i feel like shit+the world is on fire

a follow-up/sequel zine to "i feel like shit" bc most of the time it's honestly not down to personal issues why i feel so horrible

the world weighs so heavy, but we're going to carry it together

free pdf on my ko/fi / also available in french, pls share other ways you reconcile taking care of yourself and others when everything is going to shit

[ID:

Image 1: The cover of a zine titled "I feel like shit + the world is on fire: another list of (helpful?) things to try"

Image 2: pages one and two of the zine.

page one reads "Maybe you don't feed heard.

-speak at events

-be the one to start radically honest conversations in your circles

-make zines

-put your art, words, work in public, online + print it, put it in the streets, hand out your poetry to strangers

-create

-share

-testify

-write, say, sing what needs to be heard (even just to yourself, are you hearing you?)

-host/organize round tables/venting circles"

page two reads "Maybe you need to be in the world, to connect

-put your body outside!!

-join protests/demonstrations

-be in nature ➡️ literally touch grass: garden, grow things

-meet your friends + organizing groups in person - or at least over the phone, video (not just text)

-attend events outside your usual circle

-dance, sing, play music with other people

-get to know a neighbor ➡️ even on a surface level, you don't have to become besties"

Image 3: pages three and four of the zine.

page three reads "maybe you feel unprepared, unsafe, fear

-learn skills useful for community, organizing + self-sufficiency: cooking, mending, growing food, conflict resolution

-start a group (online is good too) willing to show up might anyone need help

-look out for each other: wear a mask, reach out if someone seems isolated

-tell people. they're scared too

-tell someone willing to teach that you want to learn

-ask questions

-list what you already have as resources + what you need"

page four reads "maybe you feel useless

-there might be things you can already do with your current skills + authentic self

-make posters

-make knowledge ➡️ translate resources

-make accessible ➡️ sum up books in zines

-be a healer: hold space, listen, comfort

-teach others a skill you have for free

-put it into words for others to feel heard

-help your neighbor

-cook free meals ➡️ for a friend ➡️ help at free meal kitchen

-donate: money, time, goods, skills, depending what you have"

Image 4: pages five and six of the zine.

page five reads: "maybe you want to take direct action but you're not sure what it looks like

-guerilla gardening

-put up informative stickers/posters when you go places

-you can disrupt systems by: boycotting, protesting, blocking, civil disobediance, making them obsolete ➡️ provide for free what they are providing for a cost or with conditions: access to child care, knowledge, food, use your skills to fix stuff in your community i.e. broken bench"

page six reads "maybe it's all too much

-scream about it

-take a nap, take a break, come back stronger

-cry

-feel + express your anger: vent about it, release it physically, turn it into a material thing (art to share, a letter to shred...)

-make space fpr joy, too

-hug, hold someone (or yourself, or a pet)

-breathe (seriously, yes)

and if you don't have hope, have spite ➡️ as said Roberta Sam @showme_yourmask"

Image 5: the back cover of the zine. it reads "what do we do when our pain is cause by systems and issues bigger than the personal level? what's left when self-centered "self-care" does not help? what steps can we take to both feel better and actually contribute? take what applies, add your own ideas, be critical of mine, love. a sequel size to "i feel like shit" @starkittyzines, 2024

/end ID]

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In hindsight it's very insulting to be told that flunking out of college due to adhd is actually "quite common"

just like, if there's a history at your institution of disabled kids not being able to make it you realise that's your fault right. like why don't you fucking do something about it. i guess they tried to do something about it with me and it failed so they let me go. crazy. nice work. why should we try to do any better.

only 5% of people with adhd who go to college finish a degree. FUCKING. FIVE!!! PERCENT!!!!!!!!!!!

that should disgust and enrage you.

if any other demographic of students had a 95% failure rate, we would be demanding reform and studies to understand why that’s happening

when i was at my first university, trying to get accommodations for my ADHD, they just kept asking me what accommodations i wanted, and refused to answer when i would ask what was available to me. how the Hell am i supposed to know what i can have? what’s available???? also, i don’t know!!!! i’m an adhd sufferer, not a fucking disability expert for the fucking college, unlike you, DISABILITY EXPERT WHO WORKS FOR THE COLLEGE.

but because the us is OBSESSED with making sure no one gets anything “”for free””, she literally would not tell me what my options were until i broke down in tears and asked her why she was refusing to help me. and then she did a big sigh, like i was fucking up her entire career by *checks notes* asking the disability center in my university to help me, a disabled student

at the second uni i went to, i tried to explain to a dean that i was literally two gen eds that had nothing to do with my degree away from graduating and that i was burnt out and broke and exhausted and suicidal and i just needed to be able to finish my degree without the gen eds. and this. fucking. guy. looked me right in my face and said in the most patronizing tone he could muster “if you can’t handle it, then maybe college just isn’t for you.” keep in mind that up until that semester, i had been an honor student who made Dean’s List every semester and didn’t get below Bs. if it hadn’t been for my mental breakdown, i would have graduated cum laude, maybe even summa cum laude.

but this dean of students looked a disabled person right in the face and said well i guess you just can’t do it, short bus

Pulled these from a couple articles really quick but yeah the statistics are not kind. I remember writing a scathing essay about my issues with ADHD and college as part of an assignment for academic probation. I got back an email calling me entitled and lazy. Somehow, this thread helps me feel a lot better. I still have about a semester of school unfinished that I’m unsure if I’ll finish but… yeah. Makes me feel better to know it’s not just me.

PSA: The Job Accommodation Network maintains a searchable database of accommodation suggestions for a wide variety of disabilities.

The full database can be accessed here and the ADHD page is here. The full database can be filtered by disability, by limitation, by work-related function, by topic, and by accommodation. Many of these accommodations are applicable to academic settings as well as the workplace.

Here are the section headers for ADHD accommodations ideas to give an overview of what the page contains - this post would become Do You Love the Color of the Accommodation if I attempted to list them all here

The ADHD page linked above also includes case examples and strategies for determining what sort of accommodations might be necessary. More broadly, the JAN website as a whole is a treasure trove of information related to the Americans with Disabilities Act and resources for both individuals and employers.

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you're kinda a loser

Yeah, but I used to be a lot worse, and being a loser hurts a lot less when you remember that you're still better than you used to be.

You should try it sometime. Be better, and see if it hurts less.

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sure there’s a ramp, but is it steep? is there a curb at the top? is the ground uneven? do i need a key for the elevator? are the aisles and doorways wide enough? do i have room to turn? is there furniture and clutter in my way? is the carpet difficult to wheel on? can i open the doors myself?

accessibility to wheelchairs is more than just a ramp.

you know how people say that cats and dogs don’t feel love the way humans do but it’s like. “oh they don’t love you they just associate you with warmth and safety and seek out your company and being near you and spending time with you makes them feel comfortable and secure” bro if that’s not love then what the FUCK do you think love is???

love is real because my kitty cat seeks me out for warmth and safety and also so do my friends on account of the fact that i love them

It’s also just bullshit in general. The Human - Animal bond has been studied extensively and results in similar biological responses across animal groups and humans.

Not only do your dogs and cats love you, but your parrots love you. Your mice love you. Your lizards love you. Your ants love you. Your spider loves you.

Turns out bonding is just something we animals (humans included, bc we’re not fundamentally different from other animals as such statements op is referring to imply) like to do when we can afford to do it.

Fucking THANK you

This is the #1 thing that people ask or say when they learn I have a tortoise- "oh, but does he actually love you?"

Look buddy. Maybe you have some specific definition of love that'll exclude anything other than human, or mammalian love.

But he recognizes me specifically, and when he sees me, he scoots his shelled butt out of his hut and cranes his neck up for little head scratches and maybe a dandelion leaf as a treat, and when he's out on the floor or on the field with me he likes the huddle on my shoes or under my legs and circle around them before going on his next adventure to nom a lil clover sprig

He associates me with warmth and safety and food and that good feeling on his skin he gets when I touch him gently. And whatever that manifests as in his little reptilian brain is some form of love.

the person who helped today when I fell out of my wheelchair actually did a really great job, so I want to share in case other people wonder what to do. [Note: this is not universal, this is merely a suggestion from one person, every wheelchair user's needs are different! I am a person who uses a manual chair usually pushed by someone else who is also disabled.]

Scenario: you see someone in a wheelchair fall out of their chair, and you have the ability to help.

1. Approach and ask "are you okay?"*

2. Next question if they say no, are vague, or open to continuing conversation** is, "is there anything I can do to help?" Or "what can I do?"

  • If they say no to help, then that's the end, just leave and go do whatever you were doing!
  • If they ask for help or say they are mildly injured, ask "what would you like me to do?" And wait for an answer before doing anything! If they seem dazed or confused, they might have hit their head or had another medical event*, or they might just be like that due to regular disability. Be patient.

Do not touch the person unless they say to, or they are like, unconcious in the middle of the road, ya know?? Wheelchair users usually have conditions that mean being handled improperly can severely injure us, you could cause much more damage than the fall.

Some things they might need you to do:

  • Bring their wheelchair closer (mine went about 5 feet away after it dumped me)
  • engage the brakes of the wheelchair
  • hold wheelchair steady if it's an unsteady surface (mud, hill, ramp, wet, etc)
  • offer an arm for them to hold onto to get up (them grabbing you, not you grabbing them) or move another solid item closer for them to use (i.e. a chair) [only do this if you physically have the ability to!]
  • If the terrain is rough (i.e. a parking lot), they *might* ask you to push their chair to a more stable area once they are back in their chair
  • nothing
  • Something else

Do what they ask, NOT what you think would be helpful. If for some reason you have to do something (i.e. you can't stop oncoming traffic and need to get them out) ASAP, tell them what you plan to do

Keep in mind they might also be D/deaf, have a communication disability, be stunned after the fall, have a head injury, not trust other people, etc. Be patient and treat them as a person with autonomy and agency! They might need to just sit on the ground for a few minutes to recover before trying to get back in their chair. They might want everyone to leave them alone. They might ask you to call someone specific. Their chair might have broken and that can be extremely distressing. All of this is like if your legs spontaneously stop working when you're out and about!

A lot of wheelchair users (NOT ALL) have ways to get into their chair on their own once the chair is close enough and brakes engaged (but it's hard from the ground!). Here's what brakes look like on a lot of manual wheelchairs, in case they ask you to lock the brakes. They're levers on each side and pushing the lever pushes a bar against the wheel to hold it still.

ID: A manual wheelchair with the brake levels circled in red and labeled "user brake levers"

*There is also the possibility of course that a person fell out of their chair due to a seizure or other medical event, so that is why it is important to ask if they are okay. If you saw them hit their head, tell them so. If they had a medical event, follow protocol for that, I'm not gonna get into it here (thought I could).

**sometimes a person will be clear after the first question i.e. "I'm all good thanks" clearly means they do not need you to ask another question, you can just leave them alone. Keep walking and don't stare. A lot of the time people will be a bit banged up but be totally fine and able to manage on their own.

TLDR: Ask the wheelchair user if they're okay, then what they need, and then do exactly that, including leaving them alone. Thanks!

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