trans people will literally go “i have a complicated relationship with my history with gender and sometimes see it as a gender i ‘used to be’ and i don’t really look like a cis person of either gender and i don’t think i can fit it into simple categories” and everyone will spontaneously combust
i remember being at some lgbtqia+ group when i was at an all girl’s school and i was one of two trans people, i was the only butch or even vaguely masculine person in the room, and i said something along the lines of “i consider myself a guy who used to be a girl” and five minutes later one of my friends(if you would say that ig) went “yeah so he was always a boy, he just didn’t know it yet” about me. and i had to stand there like What Did I Just Say. Can Anyone Hear Me
now i make posts like “sometimes trans men used to be girls and sometimes trans women used to be boys and it’s ok if we think about it like that” and everyone immediately acts like they want me dead
Twenty years ago, February 15th, 2004, I got married for the first time.
It was twenty years earlier than I ever expected to.
To celebrate/comemorate the date, I’m sitting down to write out everything I remember as I remember it. No checking all the pictures I took or all the times I’ve written about this before. I’m not going to turn to my husband (of twenty years, how the f'ing hell) to remember a detail for me.
This is not a 100% accurate recounting of that first wild weekend in San Francisco. But it -is- a 100% accurate recounting of how I remember it today, twenty years after the fact.
sucks that “incel” is just like a generic insult now synonymous with “virgin” bc if people had much of an idea of what incel ideology actually entails, we could have a conversation about radical feminism being quite literally, beat for beat, incel shit for girls
radfems 🤝 incels:
basic, inescapable biology dooms me to be a perpetual victim of the Other (Evil) Sex
me and my ingroup are the primary victims of a society that is fundamentally and irreparably broken
99% of people cannot be trusted and will only hurt and disappoint me, so i need to stay sequestered in insular online communities where people won’t try to gaslight me into questioning these truths
the outside world becomes harder and harder to bear as people won’t accept my reality, and even my once-closest friends reveal themselves to be of the Enemy
eventually i have to accept the fact that nothing will ever, ever change, and i will die alone and deeply unhappy
like radfems also get blackpilled. they fall down pipelines into the deepest darkest extremes of their ideology, and it’s increasingly harder to get these people to reengage with the world specifically because their ideology posits that the world is corrupted and divided into Us and Them, and that the ingroup’s victim status is biological and innate. it’s a system that lends itself naturally to doomerism and blackpilling due partially to the social isolation that comes with it. and it’s equally difficult as with incels to “break through” the isolation because these people do not want help whatsoever. they have been thoroughly conditioned to see attempts at helping as Active Victimization and further proof of the rightness of their beliefs
wow, for some reason, less than 4 months after she made her account, my girlfriend got silently banned off Tumblr! thats crazy!
i wonder what my black trans girlfriend did to get herself banned! oh well im sure there was a really good reason for it
this website is a fucking joke.
if you arent furious over this in light of the recent downsizing of tumblr’s staff to about 25, then you havent thought yet about how purposeful you have to be to single out a single black trans person for being black and trans out of a userbase accounting for 300 million daily logins.
because of something existential that they dont like about her.
no email or anything by the way. no notice of deletion, she just attempted logging in and couldnt. there is no consistent terms of service to account for this, it is very blatant transmisogynoir for this to have come to pass.
im sure they could come up with some legal bullshit reason to cover themselves, but think about it. 25 staff. thats fewer people than a highschool classroom, as my other partner put it so well, and they still decided hers was the most dangerous blog on tumblr. alright man.
i love the phrase “which could mean nothing” i think its my favorite thing to come out of the internet ever i love saying it. it could mean nothing but we all know better. we know the truth.
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