weaselle:

anarchistmemecollective:

animentality:

ALT

i’ve said it before and i’ll say it again: what we want is for these things to be run like a HOUSEHOLD… a home. A household still has a budget and an income and resources to manage; all the moving parts are the same but the focus is different.

a business will let every person in it die a terrible death if it makes the business profit. A household will spend it’s last dollar to keep the people in it safe and healthy.

A household will use money as a resource to add value to the lives of the people in the household. A business will use people as a resource to add monetary value to the business

We don’t want a government run like a business, we want a country run like a household. Because we live here.

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ms-demeanor:

Okay I know that everybody knows that Johnny Cash covered Hurt and made it his own and it’s heartbreaking because it’s a man nearing the end of his life looking back and seeing the things he did wrong and mourning and apologizing and loving his life in spite of the pain and that’s a really powerful thing.

However currently I’m sobbing over Willie Nelson’s cover of “Do You Realize,” which is a man who knows he’s old, and has lived well, and has had a wonderful time, and he hopes you have a wonderful time as well.

thefloralmenace:

Didn’t have “see your political action philosophy expressed by Jorts the cat” on my 2025 bingo card.

All cats are anarchists.

Probably like 80% of cat owners are also anarchists.

Fill every drawer in the U.S. Treasury with glitter and a note that says Go to Hell.

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lew-basnight:

lew-basnight:

lew-basnight:

I can’t get into it without outing myself and my job, but damn I wish people could figure out how to break the rules on their own. If you involve me, if you tell me you’re going to violate a contract, I am required to do something. I’m not a cop! I’m not a narc! You could simply not tell me this shit! I am begging you to not tell me! Don’t send me an email to my work address that says “I’m going to violate our contract, how would you suggest I do it?” Well first things first don’t fucking tell me

Like one time I was working at the bar years before weed was legal. The owner hated pot and pot smokers. And this regular was standing in front of the front door smoking his little glass pipe

“Hey man, go around the corner”

“Naw it’s cool”

“It’s really not. (The owner) will ban you if he sees you doing this in front of his bar like an idiot”

“He won’t see me”

“Yeah but I see you. And I’m asking you to go around the corner so you’re not right in front of the fucking bar”

“It’s just weed. Are you scared of weed?”

“Listen you stupid hippie I use drugs that would blow your burnout mind. I don’t give a shit about weed. But do not fucking involve me, do not involve the bar. Just take seven steps to the corner and smoke your heart out”

“Naw man it’s cool”

Then the owner came outside and blew his fucking stack and the guy was barred for life. And then the owner got mad at me for not running to him and telling him hippie Dave was burning it down in front of the bar. I’m just begging you to not involve me in your poorly thought-out crimes in a way that will get us both in serious trouble. I am begging you

Bringing this back in a general way to remind people who might be considering breaking rules that maybe not telling strangers you are about to break some rules might be wise. Because you do not know where that information is going to end up

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iguanodonwildman:

tjalexandernyc:

tjalexandernyc:

My mom accidentally joined a grieving support group (long story, she’s not grieving tho) and she’s missing it this week while visiting me and she’s VERY concerned that Lorraine, who very kindly offered to bring a baked good like mom usually would, will NOT bring the correct kind of dessert, she says citrus tarts aren’t “griefy” enough

ok so the way my mom accidentally joined a grieving support group when she’s not grieving is this:

She’s Catholic and has two churches. One is her Real Church but it’s far from her house and tbh all the nice priests have died and the new priests are either lackluster or extremely conservative so sometimes she goes to the Other Church which is closer and more liberal but which she won’t join permanently because she doesn’t want to “cede the territory” of her Real Church to the conservatives (this is all backstory for flavor don’t worry about it). Other Church once announced they were looking for volunteers for, like, a grief squad? Basically if someone was having a funeral but no one showed up to attend, the church would call in the squad and they’d mourn for the dead person and pray (which is important for Catholics because we believe you need that oomph to actually get to Heaven, don’t worry about it). Anyway mom thought that was a nice concept so the next time she went back to Real Church she asked the head usher if they wanted to put together a similar squad there. The usher was like, oh we have one of those! It’s every Wednesday night, you should join.

The miscommunication: the usher didn’t understand the purpose of the squad mom was describing, just heard “grieving and mourning” and went to the next closest thing. Because my mom showed up to the Wednesday meeting and discovered a group of widows and widowers who are there to, like, discuss their own losses?

Why didn’t my mom just leave when she realized the mistake? Great question. She had baked a cake (chocolate) thinking that would be appreciated (apparently funerals without real mourners are very short and boring) and she didn’t want it to go to waste.

She stayed in the support group!! And has been attending! For a full YEAR.

She explained to the group leader that she isn’t a widow and doesn’t have anyone to grieve but all they said was “well everyone’s lost somebody. Or will.” So now my mom goes to the weekly meeting with her baked goods because she 1) doesn’t want to be rude and leave the group and 2) apparently grieving people are the Most happy to get cookies so she gets to practice all these bonkers recipes shes wanted to try.

In mom’s opinion the best kinds of dessert for grief is chocolate and caramel, or any kind of crunchy candy confection. Lemon and cream is “not mournful enough.” She’s absolutely wild I love her

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tam–lin:

goneahead:

sonicskullsalt:

breelandwalker:

his-quietus-make:

avari20:

But still interested in feeding yourself? What if I told you that there’s a woman with a blog who had to feed both herself and her young son…on 10 British pounds ($15/14 Euro) per week?

Let me tell you a thing.

This woman saved my life last year. Actually saved my life. I had a piggy bank full of change and that’s it. Many people in my fandom might remember that dark time as when I had to hock my writing skills in exchange for donations. I cried a lot then. 

This is real talk, people: I marked down exactly what I needed to buy, totaled it, counted out that exact change, and then went to three different stores to buy what I needed so I didn’t have to dump a load of change on just one person. I was already embarrassed, but to feel people staring? Utter shame suffused me. The reasons behind that are another post all together. 

AgirlcalledJack.com is run by a British woman who was on benefits for years. Things got desperate. She had to find a way to feed herself and her son using just the basics that could be found at the supermarket. But the recipes she came up with are amazing. 

You have to consider the differing costs of things between countries, but if you just have three ingredients in your cupboard, this woman will tell you what to do with it. Check what you already have. Chances are you have the basics of a filling meal already. 

Here’s her list of kitchen basics. 

Bake your own bread. It’s easier than you think. Here’s a list of many recipes, each using some variation of just plain flour, yeast, some oil, maybe water or lemon juice. And kneading bread is therapeutic. 

Make your own pasta–gluten free. 

She gets it. She really does. This is the article that started it all. It’s called “Hunger Hurts”.

She has vegan recipes.

A carrot, a can of kidney beans, and some cumin will get you a really filling soup…or throw in some flour for binding and you’ve got yourself a burger. 

Don’t have an oven or the stove isn’t available? She covers that in her Microwave Cooking section. 

She has a book, but many recipes can be found on her blog for free. She prices her recipes down to the cent, and every year she participates in a project called “Living Below the Line” where she has to live on 1 BP per day of food for five days. 

Things improved for me a little, but her website is my go to. I learned how to bake bread (using my crockpot, but that was my own twist), and I have a little cart full of things that saved me back then, just in case I need them again. She gives you the tools to feed yourself, for very little money, and that’s a fabulous feeling. 

Tip: Whenever you have a little extra money, buy a 10 dollar/pound/euro giftcard from your discount grocer. Stash it. That’s your super emergency money. Make sure they don’t charge by the month for lack of use, though.

I don’t care if it sounds like an advertisement–you won’t be buying anything from the site. What I DO care about is your mental, emotional, and physical health–and dammit, food’s right in the center of that. 

If you don’t need this now, pass it on to someone who does. Pass it on anyway, because do you REALLY know which of the people in your life is in need? Which follower might be staring at their own piggy bank? Trust me: someone out there needs to see this. 

Reblogging for all the impoverished students. Jack is the breadline queen. And if you don’t need this - donate to your nearest food bank, stat.

Reblogging for students, working folks, and everyone who’s ever had to choose between essentials at the store because you can only afford milk OR bread, not both.

Her blog is called Cooking on a bootstrap now

Here’s an up to date link

COOKING ON A BOOTSTRAP

by Jack Monroe, bestselling author of 'A Girl Called Jack'

COOKING ON A BOOTSTRAP

reblogging and adding another very useful website of cheap recipes: budgetbytes.com

Linked websites are down (at least for me, at this particular moment). Try this link:

COOKING ON A BOOTSTRAP

by Jack Monroe, bestselling author of 'A Girl Called Jack'

COOKING ON A BOOTSTRAP

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queermania:

if i’m ever brutally murdered and everyone feels like they need to do something productive in my memory, all i want is for you to pass legislation banning LED headlights in my name. regardless of how irrelevant it is to my murder. it’s relevant to my heart.

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i-am-a-fish:

bog-goblin:

bog-goblin:

paradoxial-cunt:

ALT

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sacred-portal:

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ms-demeanor:

ms-demeanor:

ms-demeanor:

ms-demeanor:

When I was a kid I kept failing classes because I’d lose my homework. I’d finish it, but between the dining room table and the classroom it would just walk away. Sometimes it ended up in my backpack, sometimes it didn’t; sometimes I finished the homework at school and it got home in my backpack but wasn’t there the next day.

To attempt to address this, my parents got me a neon orange folder to put in my backpack; it was my homework folder, all homework was to go into that folder and that folder only, and it was to only come out of that folder when it was being worked on. I was to put homework in the homework folder as soon as it was assigned and if I’d worked on it, put it back in the folder as soon as it was finished. The logic here was that using the folder was supposed to be automatic, and you wanted a bright color so it wouldn’t get lost in the depths of a backpack.

I think I lost about eight of those before my parents stopped buying orange folders.

So it was very frustrating to search “how to be organized at work as an adult with ADHD” only to get a list that said “set alarms and write things down and try to make friends with a more organized person” which was immediately followed by tips to help your ADHD child stay organized and the one right at the top was to put their homework in a bright folder so they couldn’t lose it.

If you have been harmed by the ADHD Tips Industrial Complex you may be entitled to a packet of fun-dip and a cactus cooler as consolation for losing your homework folder again.

“You’d remember it if you thought it was important, you’re just demonstrating that you don’t care”

*EXTREMELY LOUD INCORRECT BUZZER*

FWIW I’ve started collecting ADHD tips that I’ve come up with or that I’ve found helpful and I’ve been writing them up on my website.

However many are as yet unwritten because. Well. You will never guess.

(each of those includes a description of the techniques; some include an explanation of why the work for me and some include links to other resources, like the Soundscapes page is linked under “Background Noise”; the to-do-list one describes multiple types of to do lists that I use in multiple situations)

Hey so actually this post motivated me to write 3500 words on success traps, which is setting up systems where success can sneak up on you and trap you in spite of your executive function going on a vacation.

“Put your homework in an orange folder” is an example of something that a neurotypical parent thinks is a success trap that they’re setting up for their kid.

The trap that the kid might set up for themself is “take photos of all my homework so that if I lose it I can send it to the teacher or work on it without the original paper version.” (In my pre-cellphone education era my success trap might have been “turn in homework before the class ends if the teacher allows it” or “do homework with my friend from class who DOESN’T lose homework every day and ask them if they can bring it to school for me”)

Some samples:

A success trap is something that will redirect you to what you want to do when you would otherwise fail. Success traps can be physical or mental, they can be tools you use or habits you form; they just have to be something that points you back in the direction of your goal when you get diverted. Features that are present in a success trap include:

• Reduces distractions
• Reminds you of your task
• Removes Speedbumps
• Increases focus
• Increases efficiency

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Tools to Build Success Traps

Apps, web extensions, physical tools, habits, clothing, and training can all be components of building a successful success trap.

Reduce Distractions

• LeechBlock Browser Extension and other access control extensions - can be used to block specific websites for set timeframes.
• Noise-blocking headphones
• Setting up “Focus Time” rules in a household or work environment

Task Reminders

• Timers, Planners, Calendars, Alarms, Post-its, whiteboards, To-do Lists, Task Managers and a ton of other traditional tools to remind people what they’re working on.
• Less conventional reminders include WristLists/Reminder Bracelets, writing tasks on your skin with pens or sharpies, website blocking, physical barriers to distractions (chair in front of the door, phone underneath a task-oriented notepad) and “[Clean/Cook/Work] With Me” Videos.

Remove Speedbumps

Speedbumps tend to be very individual and contextual, so removing them takes experience. If your child struggles to get homework done because they feel like they need to look up every word they don’t know on the assignment sheet, you might want to sit with them and go through the definitions before they start working. But sometimes the speedbump to making madelines is simply the fact that someone has to empty the sink of dishes before cooking can commence, so all you can do is either wash the dishes in the moment or work on building a robust dishwashing system for ensuring there are no plates in the sink.

Increase Focus

• Moderate emotions; you’ll be more focused when you’re less upset or angry or sad - if you need to pay attention to something it might be helpful to bring your mood back to something stable and moderate before you get started. Since ADHD includes emotional dysregulation this may be difficult, but you know the best way to put yourself back on an even keel. If breathing exercises give you panic attacks, don’t use them to try to calm down; maybe you’ll do better with three sets of pushups or five minutes of a phone game.
• Helpful distractions - many people with ADHD find that they work better with background noise or some other kind of external stimulation while doing focused, boring tasks. Listening to music or podcasts, or putting a familiar movie on or turning on a white noise machine can all be helpful distractions that keep the ADHD brain juuuuuust focused enough on something in the periperhy to allow your brain to pay attention to the task that needs to be done (rather the crushing silence of a tense open plan office or the distracting noises the clock and ceiling lights are making.

Increase Efficiency

This one is also highly contextual and highly specific. One example of a success trap that I’m considering making is a single-key keyboard that I can use for “typing” passwords. One of the ones I’m considering purchasing is a mouse with programmable buttons. Getting a mouse to do “Ctrl+C/CTRL+V/CTRL+SHIFT+V” while using excel for web would be a game-changer for me in terms of efficiency. Maybe I’ll even get around to it someday. But another example of an efficiency win is just checking my email and messages any time I sit down at my desk. If I haven’t stood up in four hours I’m off the hook, but if I stood up to get a refill on my coffee for three minutes, I must check my email when I get back to my desk. That’s just how it’s done. I don’t make the rules. (Not true, I do make the rules but the Alli who makes the rules and the Alli who follows the rules are two different people who just happen to both live in my head.

Get creative when you’re thinking about what tools to add to your toolbox. And maybe make one of those tools a literal toolbox. The plastic totes used for cleaning supplies can also be used for gardening tools, pet care, car parts, and barbecues. Make use of them because they might save you a ton of work and there’s no reason not to.

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The website is free; the reason I started using it for writing up stuff like this more than I use tumblr for writing up stuff like this is that tumblr is too hard to search and “wiki is easy to format and easy to write” is a success trap for me.

californiagoddess:

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anotherdayforchaosfay:

texaschainsawmascara:

Mona Lisa cat nest 😭

@followthebluebell

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steakosaur:

ariadne-mouse:

me, unloading a fitted sheet from the dryer: *squinting* what’s that you’ve got in your mouth

fitted sheet: nothing :)))))))

me, prying open its twisted jaws: na-ah!!! give it to me RIGHT now!!

fitted sheet: *resentfully spits out a wad of 3 very damp dishtowels, a pillowcase, and a pathetically sodden washcloth*

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