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TED LASSO (2020 - ) 3.01: Smells Like Mean Spirit
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~ Avengers: Infinity War (2018) ~
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"came back wrong" what about Came Back Afraid. You used to be brave. Too brave maybe, defying the odds at every turn, a fighter, cocky, playing with fire, first to throw yourself at the enemy. Until one day it all caught up to you. You came back, somehow, but now you know all too intimately how it feels to lose, to die, to be destroyed. Now you flinch and freeze and cower at the slightest provocation. Who even are you now if you can't be brave? The grave may have let you go, but the mortal fear still grips you tighter than ever.
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i am full of love and also fatigue
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the appropriate and traditional response to being annoyed is to bitch about it on your little internet journal
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having a freeze response to stress is so funny in the context of normal adult stressors. millions of years of evolution are trying to tell me that the email will not find me if i stay very still and do nothing
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it’s completely acceptable to stay alive for tiny reasons. because you want to hear your favorite song one more time. because your dog will miss you if you leave. because the moon is just too pretty to never see again. because you haven’t seen the next season of a really good tv show. because you want to see the christmas lights this year. if you’re alive, you’re doing enough. if you’re surviving, i’m proud of you.
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Abuse isn't only physical. Sometimes it is...
- Shouting at them until they cry/retaliate.
- Humiliating them in front of friends and family.
- Refusing to let them see friends and family.
- Isolating them from what's outside.
- Refusing to let them have control over their own finances / keeping it all for yourself.
- Belittling their looks, their personality, their thoughts, etc.
- Bullying them in any way.
- Purposely pushing boundaries.
- Threatening them, either physically, verbally or emotionally.
- Controlling what and when they eat.
- Locking them in rooms so they can't escape.
- Refusing to let them use the toilet/eat/sleep/etc. after or before a certain time.
- Gaslighting them into questioning their own reality.
- Lying to or manipulating the people around them so they look like the abuser.
- Purposely breaking their belongings, especially in front of them.
- Ignoring safewords/"stop"/anything that indicates they're not okay with what's happening (in general, not just in the bedroom)
- Giving them zero privacy. That means going through their diaries, tracking them, attending their therapy/doctors appointments when they don't want you to.
- Setting them up to fail for the sole purpose of getting to punish them.
- Obvious favoritism of one child over another/the others.
All of these are things that I have personally been through. They contributed heavily to my eating disorder, my BPD, my anxiety and my depression.
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It's such a strange and unique way of fucking up your kid when you at the same time a) treat them like a personal therapist giving them problems that are decades away from anything that they could handle, and expecting the kid to actually fix your grown up problems and to listen to your trauma.
And b) at the same time never give them any real outside world responsibility, making sure that they know as little as possible about how to actually survive in the real world, like paying bills, etc.
Meanwhile making sure but all of your child's self-worth is tied to their actions, and not who they are as a person.
It's a weird little vicious circle, that is so incredibly hard to outgrow, because like I know I'm not worthless just because there might be a time when I'm not productive, and I know I don't have to fix everyone's problems, and I know that I'm a capable adult who can do all the things I need to do to survive and thrive, but my basic training for life goes against all that!