Noa

listen the fact is that a lot of poor people ARE bad with money. i have terrible impulse control around spending 5 dollars here and 10 dollars there and i know so many people around me who have this problem too. but its not "this persons bad with money, so theyre poor"; its "this persons poor, so theyre bad with money". i dont know when i'll be able to get a little treat or eat out or buy myself something that will make me happy again so i have to do it now. idon't know when i'll afford food again so i have to buy it now. i don't feel confident in the fact i'll ever have the cushioning to genuinely enjoy expendable income, so instead of saving and hoping (only to have my savings routinely wiped out for moving, or medical costs, or a car accident), i spend it now so i can enjoy life now.

i think if you see poor people ebegging constantly but two days ago saw them posting about a fancy coffee and a pastry, you need to stop viewing "spending a few dollars you maybe shouldnt" as something that requires the Punishment of "can't pay the fucking bills". some of us, just like, need to feel like we have some kind of normalcy in our lives because being poor fucking sucks

not wearing a mask isn't a personal choice, it's a complete abandonment of disabled people, btw

people are like "if you put crabs in a bucket they can't escape because they keep pulling each other back in, this is called crab bucket mentality and describes why people don't help each other" and never acknowledge that crabs do not naturally occur in buckets, a human with more power had to put them there

The US could have avoided almost 250,000 Covid-19 deaths if every state had adopted stricter mask and vaccine requirements seen in the Northeast during the height of the pandemic, according to a new study.

Researchers say that the country, which saw more than 1.1 million Covid deaths, could have been spared an estimated 118,000 to 248,000 more lives.

covid is still killing people btw. in 2024

wear a mask

update; covid is still killing people in 2025

When I was a kid, I would only eat the yolk from an egg. Didn’t matter if it was boiled, fried, poached or deviled, the yolk was all I wanted.

My reason for this was “the white makes me feel sick”/“it hurts my tummy”. And everyone did what most folk do when kids say such things, they roll their eyes and call you a fussy eater and complain to anyone who will listen about how hard your child is to feed.

They won’t eat sandwich meat, they won’t eat minced beef, they won’t eat nuts, they won’t eat tomatoes, they won’t eat pasta, they won’t eat fish or spinach, they barely eat fruits and ugh you should see the tantrum they kick up when you try to give them yogurt for a healthy snack. And get this, they will only eat the yolk from eggs. What an annoying kid, right?

So, anyway, as it turns out egg whites are high in histamine while egg yolks are not. Everything I listed up there, is actually high in histamine or is histamine releasing and as someone who just found out after 20+ years of abject misery and several near misses with anaphylaxis that they have histamine intolerance disorder/possible MCAS, I feel really fucking validated about childhood me being a fussy eater.

So uh, pro tip to parents, while there is every chance your kid genuinely is a fussy eater, please also consider that there may also be something at play going on and they’re not just doing it to personally piss you off. Whether it’s a food allergy, intolerance, sensory/texture issues or an issue as insidious and hard to detect as mine, please don’t assume your child is just being difficult for funsies. And please don’t force them to eat something they say makes them feel sick. There’s probably a valid reason, and it warrants investigation rather just assuming your kid exists to tick you off.

there’s a couple of reasons why kids might not like foods.

Firstly, kids do actually have a slightly different sense of taste than adults. So something that might taste fine to an adult might sincerely taste bad or weird to a kid. They’re not shitting you, they’re tasting it differently because their mouth is wired differently.

And secondly, allergies and food sensitivities. Parents and guardians should keep an eye out for reactions to common allergens, and what different symptoms of allergies and anaphylaxis look like. And like … ask kid why they don’t like it. Even if it’s something like “I don’t like how this was cooked” means that they might like it if it’s prepared differently.

Listening to kids is really important. When I was three, I went from loving eggs to not eating them. My parents were very surprised (I had LOVED scrambled eggs before) and asked me why. I said that it made my mouth feel weird. Now, my mom is also allergic to eggs, though she tends to get hives. So she had a good idea what was going on, and my parents immediately stopped serving me eggs until they had a better idea what was going on. And I got tests done, and I have a mild egg allergy. Small amounts are ok, but if I had kept on eating larger quantities, I might have had a serious reaction and needed to be hospitalized. I avoided that because my parents listened to me and took me seriously.

When are we going to start teaching kids that it’s okay to disagree with adults? That it’s okay to demand respect from them and that them being younger doesn’t mean they deserve to get treated like shit just because adults are “always right”? When are we gonna start doing that?

yes, but i gotta add:: when are we going to start telling adults that kids should be allowed to disagree with them? when are we going to teach adults that a kid disagreeing with them isn’t disrespect? when are we going to tell them that adults gotta apologize to kids when they make a mistake? when are we gonna tell them that kids should be treated with respect, despite the young age? when are we going to tell them that there’s no problem if kids start questioning adults & that they should do so?

healthcare should not have a weight limit.

like it doesn’t matter if a person is so fat they’re immobile & have infections in their skin folds & need assistance with everything from hygiene to cooking to cleaning etc. they should still get good medical care.

the fattest person you possibly imagine still deserves medical care. it also doesn’t matter why they’re fat, even if that person got fat because all they did was eat and eat without ever exercising, they still deserve medical care.

i muted this post ages ago because if i have to read one more comment about how this is:

- a US problem only (i promise you it’s not)

- “common sense” (i promise you it’s not)

- fat peoples own fault for getting fat in the first place (they still deserve healthcare regardless)

- not fatphobia because medical equipment isn’t made for fat people (wow i wonder why that is)

i think i might go on a murder spree.

yall will respect disabled people until theyre the "funny" disabilities and it pisses me off.

i am a little person. i am 4'0, i have ccd and achondroplasia. i have various other genetic conditions that affect me but i will be mentioning my identity as a little person mostly.

quit using little people as the butt of your jokes. no, you cant use the m slur it is a slur, no you cant call us gnomes or elves or dwarves or whatever the fuck you call us. we are real people, we arent little characters or creatures. we are LIVING BREATHING PEOPLE. quit treating us like kids or idiots. you dont have to baby us. quit making fun of little people's heights, ESPECIALLY PEOPLE WITH DISPROPORTIONATE DWARFISM. you are fucking ableist if you make fun of little people, you dont see us as people you see us a joke. im sick and tired of people i love and care for treating me as if im a joke and making fun of my height. fuck off

i dont care if we "look funny" or "haha tiny" its so fucking annoying and disrespectful to be treated as if the body isnt a living, breathing, full grown adult.

be better.

TW: Pedophilia

Teenagers are rarely taught the reason why they can't consent to sex with adults.

And that's because teaching them that would completely unravel our coercion-based society.

It can be difficult to explain in detail the exact reason and all the specifics in a way that they will understand. But the simplest way to phrase it is that in some cases, even when someone agrees to something and even when they appear enthusiastic about it, there's too much of a power imbalance that it's no different than forcing them. Also, having power and being abusive doesn't require a conscious expectation to be obeyed.

Imagine a world in which every teenager understood that and was easily able to call out anyone who tried to convince them otherwise.

They'd know that there's no such thing as an employee consenting to working for a poverty wage, working in unsafe conditions, working long hours, or working without taking breaks. They'd know that there's no such thing as consenting to paying a bank overdraft fee. They'd know that there's no such thing as consenting to student loan debt. They'd know that there's no such thing as consenting to medical bills. They'd know that there's no such thing as consenting to generating profit for banks or landlords in order to have a place to live and being evicted or foreclosed when you lose your source of income. They'd know that there's no such thing as consenting to a police search. They'd know that there's no such thing as a child who's okay with their parents spanking them. They'd know that being dependent on someone does not mean that you can never criticize them. They'd know that if it's considered abusive to simply play along when someone obeys, then it has to be much more abusive to actively expect to be obeyed, which many adults do to them.

And people who benefit from a society based on coercion masquerading as freedom wouldn't like that.

So instead, teenagers are taught something dismissive. They're taught that what they want doesn't matter. They're taught that they're too young to know what love is. They're taught "it's the law". They're taught things that are insulting to their intelligence, which they'll naturally rebel against.

i don't care if people think i'm weird for saying this but i do not care if a trans person is "cringey", if a disabled person is "cringey", if someone's interests are too "loud" i just genuinely do not care, it is none of my business and honestly good on them for being who they are. people are WAY too comfortable making fun of and bullying marginalized people who aren't "cool" to yall. I don't have to be cool to be respected. A lot of yall will see someone who is just existing as themselves and become so butthurt and i think it's because yall aren't as comfortable in yourselves as those people being proud about themselves are. You guys want to say that people aren't "actually disabled" or aren't "actually trans" or aren't "actually __" because they just live and thrive in themselves better than yall do. come on now. The internet has gotten way too fucking comfortable bullying people and has excused way too much hatred for people who aren't just existing all because yall don't think they meet your standards of what's "cool". and no xyz doesn't "actually" make someone cringey, if they aren't hurting anyone i quite frankly do not care, and if they are hurting someone that should be the main critique not what their interests are, not if they're disabled, not if they're queer, it should be the harmful actions.

can u see me? just checking,,

wow, for some reason, less than 4 months after she made her account, my girlfriend got silently banned off Tumblr! thats crazy!

i wonder what my black trans girlfriend did to get herself banned! oh well im sure there was a really good reason for it

this website is a fucking joke.

if you arent furious over this in light of the recent downsizing of tumblr's staff to about 25, then you havent thought yet about how purposeful you have to be to single out a single black trans person for being black and trans out of a userbase accounting for 300 million daily logins.

because of something existential that they dont like about her.

no email or anything by the way. no notice of deletion, she just attempted logging in and couldnt. there is no consistent terms of service to account for this, it is very blatant transmisogynoir for this to have come to pass.

im sure they could come up with some legal bullshit reason to cover themselves, but think about it. 25 staff. thats fewer people than a highschool classroom, as my other partner put it so well, and they still decided hers was the most dangerous blog on tumblr. alright man.

I don't usually outright ask people to reblog things, but this issue makes me furious beyond belief, so if you feel comfortable please spread this around - I've done the extremely easy, trivial task of providing a citation from before 2002, specifically 2000's Sexing the Body : Gender Politics and the Construction of Sexuality.

Assigned sex terminology was not invented by queer people at all, but cis doctors writing about intersex people. This is a fact. This is the historical record. Perisex trans people have taken a lot from intersex folk and so often treat them abysmally. The desire to create a fictional history where a perisex trans woman gets credit for having invented the terminology to describe the trauma of perisex trans women being assigned male - not even all trans people, women specifically, because the ones who do this believe that's the only real trans struggle that exists - is utterly repulsive and if we're still arguing this in ten years, if CAGAB actually goes mainstream in the perisex trans community, I will be downright livid every day.

Because they are just lying. They are lying. It was so easy to find this, and the only reason they didn't is because they didn't try.

There's so much proof that AGAB came from language to describe intersex individuals. The concept of assigned sex is traced back to the 50's. There is evidence of trans being referred to with similar language, but it wasn't under 20 years later

The 2002 claim is so easily debunkable it's not even funny. You can read it here (PDF). At the top, one of the first things to be written is "2002 (updated in 2011) from Timtum: A Trans Jew Zine", which originally was published in 1999 by the same author. You can scroll to read the scanned page (29-)31 here (link), CAFAB is not used in the original

I will also note the use of a trans guy using tranny in 1999

ID: A screenshot of text in black against a light blue background. It reads as follow. So, the use of these terms for trans people predates Tumblr entirely, predates YouTube, and goes back to the early years of the modern Internet or earlier. If people are telling you they belong exclusively to Intersex people, ask for a citation from before 2002. END ID

PT: I don't usually outright ask people to reblog things, but this issue makes me furious beyond belief, so if you feel comfortable please spread this around - I've done the extremely easy, trivial task of providing a citation from before 2002, specifically 2000's Sexing the Body : Gender Politics and the Construction of Sexuality.

Assigned sex terminology was not invented by queer people at all, but cis doctors writing about intersex people. This is a fact. This is the historical record. Perisex trans people have taken a lot from intersex folk and so often treat them abysmally. The desire to create a fictional history where a perisex trans woman gets credit for having invented the terminology to describe the trauma of perisex trans women being assigned male - not even all trans people, women specifically, because the ones who do this believe that's the only real trans struggle that exists - is utterly repulsive and if we're still arguing this in ten years, if CAGAB actually goes mainstream in the perisex trans community, I will be downright livid every day.

Because they are just lying. They are lying. It was so easy to find this, and the only reason they didn't is because they didn't try. END PT

ID: Multiple screenshots. In each of them the word "assigned" is highlighted in yellow.

1. […] and, on occasion, skin transplants. A male-assigned child may receive as many as three operations on the penis during the first couple of years of life, and […]

2. CHANGE IN ASSIGNED SEX: None

3. Ironically, in their extensive discussions about what not to tell parents, medical practitioners reveal the logical bind they face when they try to explain to patients and parents that the gender they have assigned— and often per-[…]

4. Depending upon their anatomy at birth, some female-assigned children face additional surgery: vaginal construction or expansion and labio-scrotal reduction.

5. A child’s body parts had to match his or her assigned sex.

6. […] chromosomes and gonads have been ruled unimportant because her hormonal

and assigned sex are female. As long as she is attracted to men, she is safely […]

7. […] continued sexual function. They may also reject their assigned gender identity, and if they do, they will not be missing critical parts of their anatomy because of premature surgery.

8. […] medical practitioners reveal the logical bind they face when they try to explain to patients and parents that the gender they have assigned —and often performed surgery to create— is not arbitrarily chosen, rather, it is natural and […]

9. […] grounds. Conclusions drawn from the data as to the adoption of such assigned gender role and the psychological hazard of changing it after very early child- […]

10. Intersexual children who grow up with genitalia that seem to contradict their assigned gender identities are not doomed to lives of misery. Laurent and I turned up more than eighty examples (published since 1950) of adolescents and adults who grew up with visibly anomalous genitalia (see tables 4.3 […]

11. […] and, on occasion, skin transplants. A male-assigned child may receive as many as three operations on the penis during the first couple of years of life, and […]

12. The header of a chart. Header names read as follows, in all caps. Developmental pattern (Sample size). Change in assigned sex. Medical intervention. Methods of assessment. Outcome.

END ID

Get over the fear of being seen.

Stop caring about how you’re gonna be perceived. Stop doubting yourself. Stop aiming to be perfect. Stop ruminating.

Accept who you are. Hype yourself. Invest in yourself. Be audacious. Trust in the greater outcome. Allow yourself to be seen as you are.

God, it really felt for a little while like there was an uptick in NPD positivity, and general awareness that lacking empathy/experiencing "abnormal" empathy levels has no bearing on whether someone is a good person or a bad person. I saw an increase in PSA posts about how people with NPD are human, deserve compassion, and are typically the victims of abuse or other trauma. There was still a lot of bullshit discourse, but it really seemed like people with NPD were getting treated with a little bit more respect and compassion.

And then the "sin of empathy" shit happened and everyone reverted back to "oh my godddd, republicans are evil because they don't have empathy! The left is better because we have EMPATHY! Narcissists are evil monsters with soulless black eyes! Empathy empathy empathy! "

Sigh.